Category: <span>Self-improvement</span>

Energy is contagious negative and positive alike

I was speaking to a client today who was feeling particularly down about the current state of things. She mentioned that she was feeling good earlier but suddenly felt low, lost and filled with an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. She kept asking herself when this #ukshutdown was going to be over.

We talked through her day unpicking events hour by hour. Then there it was. She had taken a call from a friend who by the end of it had drained all of her optimism, positivity and energy.

Her friend ended the call feeling great while she was saddled with nothing but negative energy.

With that awareness came the opportunity for change. She could choose to release the dense energy … well, because it was really hers.

At this time of anxiety and stress for some of us, it is important that we protect our energy. We must be mindful of what and who we allow around us. I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t be there to support our loved ones, I’m saying make sure you are in a good place before exposing yourself to others who may cause a drain to your energy bank. Some people may send you lots of negative posts, imagery and so on. If you are ok with that then great, if not, use your power of choice and say something.

Sending you #positivevibes.

Jessica 💕🙌🏾🤗

Miracles happen everyday

We are staying at home, helping to do our bit in the bid to slow down the spread of the virus. It can feel like the world is a bad and scary place at the moment, I guess because that’s most of what we are seeing on the news.

Even amidst all of that heavy  and draining news is a lot that’s good in this world. There are so many people out there risking their lives, working on the front lines so that the majority of us don’t have to.

As we slow down and begin to connect deeply with ourselves, if we open up our eyes and ears we can discover little miracles all around us.

I invite you to stop, observe and capture those miracles that make your day that little bit brighter.

Sending you love.

Jessica 🥰☀️🤗

What do you say to yourself?

I was having a conversation with a client who has been working hard to move her work and home life forward in a way is that deliberate and purposeful. As she spoke about some of the things that stopped her from going all out for what she really wants in life, I was struck by how many negative or unhelpful things she told herself every single day. A certain level of self-doubt, self-limiting thoughts and feelings is normal, however having nothing at all good to say about herself seemed a little extreme.

According to the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at the University of Southern California, we have 70,000 thoughts on average every single day. That works out to be 48.6 thoughts per minute. That is a lot going on in our heads at any given moment. Now imagine a large percentage of that is us telling ourselves we will fail if we try, we will lose our pride if we fail, we will be laughed at, we will look like fools if things don’t go well. Is it any wonder why as human beings we spend our lives in our comfort zones, afraid to move forward and grab life with both hands, or try something that feels out of our reach?

We spend so much time championing and pushing others forward and towards their dreams. When things don’t go so well we support and tell them, “don’t worry, you will do it next time, just keep trying, I have faith in you!” So why can’t we seem to do the same for ourselves?

That voice that whispers in our ears, is a natural part of who we are. Some call it our inner critic, whatever name it has for you, it keeps us safe but small, it holds us back from living our true potential. With the right help and over time we can learn to turn it down. A more sustainable way is to consciously re-programme it – give it a new job, to champion us forward as we champion our loved ones. You control it, it’s doesn’t control you…. Easier said than done, I know but it is possible.

Have an amazing day, all. In the meantime, be careful what you say to yourself, because you are listening – 70,000 times a day!

Practice Freedom

It’s almost the weekend. Time to focus on replenishing our energy and letting go of the stresses of the week. Instead, let’s take a minute to think about the top 3 things that we’ve achieved this week. In case you’re thinking the week hasn’t been all that productive, I ask you to think a little harder – they are there, you’ve just got to see them.

Remember, don’t just talk about the things you want to do this weekend, set the intention and go do them. Be free and fully present in the moment. A great friend once told me, “Now is all there is”, this is where we get to create who we really want to be. We can’t do much about the past and the future doesn’t exist yet. So be totally free in the moment and grab life by the proverbial horns.